"I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It's good, it is work, but it's the best kind of work, and there's no one I'd rather work with."
- Ben Affleck
Last year there was a huge buzz following Ben Affleck's speech at the Oscars. He was criticized and eventually apologized for what he said. He later came out on other talk shows trying to clear things up because of what he said. What did he say?
During his speech, Ben Affleck, while thanking his wife also said to her, "...thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It's good, it is work, but it's the best kind of work, and there's no one I'd rather work with."
He apologized for that? I was giving him a standing ovation. In no way did Ben Affleck say that he hated working on his relationship with his wife. In no way did Ben Affleck even seem like he was unhappy. He only expressed that building a strong relationship takes work and he even said that, to him, it's "the best kind of work." I personally think he was complimenting his wife!
The truth is: relationships take work - hard work - if you really want to make them strong. It takes time to build strong relationships and every single moment counts. Maintaining healthy relationships is even more difficult. Yes, relationships also need maintenance. Just think about your best friend or someone you are close to. The relationship was truly built with time, with purpose and with care. However, the real relationship became strong after it was built. Many relationships are built from a common experience, conversation and trust. It takes effort to maintain a strong sense of trust in a relationship.
These facts apply to any type of relationship that you can think of, not just a marriage. At work, you need to build a strong relationship with your co-workers so that you can collaborate and work for one common goal. If you're a manager, building trust with your team is extremely important and following through on your promises will make you a strong manager and a strong relationship-builder. No matter what type of relationship you encounter, it will take work if you really want to make it work.
In conclusion, if you really want to build strong relationships, put in the work. I think it's a great thing that Ben Affleck has been married for 10 years and is still working on his marriage. That's how much he cares! How are you working on your relationships?
Don't forget to share this blog so you can encourage others: family, co-workers, friends. Give them something to get motivated! You never know what they might be going through. A few words of encouragement can go a long way.
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